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What to Say When Offering Condolences
Cremation services in Phoenix, AZ, organize visitations or memorial services where friends and community members visit to offer their condolences to the surviving family. And as important as it is to attend these events, not everyone knows what to say. If you’re attending a service like this, here are examples of what to say:
“I’m so sorry for your loss. I know how hard it is to lose someone you love.”
“I’m here for you. If there’s anything I can do, please let me know.”
“Your loved one was a wonderful person. I’ll always remember them.”
“There are no words to express how sorry I am that this has happened.”
“I’m sorry for your loss. I know this is a difficult time.”
“My heart is heavy today, and I know yours is too”
“You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.”
“I can’t even begin to imagine what you’re going through right now. I’m deeply sorry for your loss.”
“I’m here to support you. Please let me know if there’s anything I can do.”
“There are no words to express how sorry I am that this has happened.”
It’s important to remember that not everyone will want the same thing from you when offering condolences. Some people may want to talk about the loved one who has passed, while others may simply want a hug or a moment of silence. The best thing you can do is be there for them, listen, and let them know you care about them and their loss.
What Not to Say When Offering Condolences
You want to offer your condolences, but you don’t want to say the wrong thing and make things worse. Here are some examples of what not to say:
“How much did he weigh?”
“How old was she?”
“Was she really that old?”
“Did he have any money?”
“Are there any pictures of her?”
If someone is crying, don’t say, “Are you okay? Are you going to be okay?”
You should also avoid any comment that starts with “at least…” such as “at least she’s in a better place” or “at least you have plenty of time to start over again.”
Instead, if you are unsure of what to say, ask them what they need from you or offer them a tissue or box of tissues. Also, don’t:
- Ask about their inheritance or what they’re going to do with the money from the life insurance policy
- Or about their financial situation unless they bring it up first (and even then, tread lightly).
In general, don’t say anything hurtful about the deceased. It’s okay if you don’t have a lot of good things to say about them but avoid saying anything negative or hateful about the person who died. And if you’re not close with the family, don’t try to make small talk or ask questions about things that are none of your business. Just keep it simple and stick with offering your condolences. We know it can be difficult finding the right words to say when someone you know dies. It’s even more difficult if you’re not close to the family. Whatever the case may be, you will be okay as long as you lead with kindness. For further questions, or if you need cremation services in Phoenix, AZ, call us now. Our staff is available 24/7 to assist you.
