Why People Avoid Death Conversations
Guidance for discussing death is one of the cremation services in Glendale, AZ that is offered for people who find these conversations difficult. The reality is that we should be comfortable talking about death and dying, because it will happen to all of us one day. We will either lose somebody we love or we will die ourselves.
When we shy away from talking about death and dying because it feels awkward, embarrassing, or it makes us afraid, we also avoid connections with people who may be dying or who may be grieving. This can lead to increased loneliness, isolation, and distress for people who are dying, people who are grieving, and for us. If we avoid doing something we know we should do because we’re afraid to do it, we create guilt and regrets.
When people are dying, whether it’s a terminal illness or just the normal progression of life, friends and family can often avoid conversations about the dying process. There are many reasons for this. One reason can be the fear of saying something wrong in making the situation worse. Another reason is simply the fear of loss. Another subconscious reason is that when someone we love is dying, we start thinking about our own mortality.
People who are dying also can avoid discussing death. There are reasons for this as well. One reason may be that they don’t want to be a burden to their family. Another reason may be that they have their own inner conflicts and unfinished business that they can’t find a way to resolve. Another reason may be that they have secrets from their lives that they’ve never shared with the rest of the family. Denial is always a factor. And some people just live an inner life, where they have never talked things out with other people, and they don’t see any reason to change.
Many people who are dying are at peace with the process, at peace with themselves, and at peace with the ones they love. However, some people may be frightened, unable to express what they need or how they feel, or confused. The reasons for this are many. Some people are just afraid of the unknown of death. Some people feel like they’re being cheated out of life. Some people may be angry at God. Some people look at their life and feel like they’ve wasted it or missed opportunities along the way. Some people may want death to come on and it’s not moving close enough or fast enough to them.
When you’re talking to somebody who’s dying, the best thing that you can do is listen. If the person needs to talk, needs to try to set things right, and needs to have things make sense, they need to feel like they’ve got somebody that’s listening to them and that they can trust. A lot of the questions that dying people ask of others don’t have any answers, and it’s important to understand that. For example, if someone asks, “What do you think happens after death?” or “Why doesn’t God just let me die?,” there are no answers among humans for those questions.
The best way to negotiate these kinds of questions is to provide comfort, encouragement, and support. If the dying person has strong religious beliefs, remind them of what they believe and what makes up their faith.
When talking about death and dying, nobody has all the answers. But we should not be afraid to listen, to be there, and to engage with the dying person on every level that we possibly can.
For more information on the cremation services provided in Glendale, AZ, our compassionate and experienced team at Simply Cremation & Funeral Arrangements is here to help. You can come to our funeral home at 16952 W. Bell Rd., #303, Surprise, AZ, 85374, or you can contact us today at (623) 975-9393.