Before cremation services in Sun City, AZ, most people, if they don’t die suddenly or unexpectedly, who are dying go through the process physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually.
Some people are very peaceful as they reach the end of their lives. However, other people find peace hard to come by as they come to their lives’ ends.
There are a lot of reasons why people may not experience peaceful deaths. The two main culprits in this lack of peace is that they are not actually prepared to die and they have unfinished business.
One reason why a person may not have a peaceful death is because they haven’t ever considered that their life will end. Because we live in a world where we go to great lengths to avoid talking about death, there are some people who never think consciously that there will come a day when they will die.
Therefore, when these people find out that they have a terminal illness or that the end of their lives is nearing, they are shocked. They find it almost impossible to believe that they have a limited amount of time left to live.
Often when death nears, people have more questions than they have answers. For people who haven’t thought about dying, they also haven’t thought about what they want in terms of care at the end of their lives and they haven’t thought about the bookend of their lives, which is their funerals.
The stress and anxiety of a terminal illness can make it much harder to make clear, thoughtful, and logical decisions about end-of-life care and funeral wishes. This leads to a lack of peace.
Another reason why people might not be at peace with death is because they haven’t talked to their families about their deaths. They may not have advance care directives and they may not have wills that appoint executors and that state their wishes as to how their estates should be distributed.
Another area of unfinished business that can lead to a lack of peace with death can be unresolved issues in close relationships. There may be rifts or separations with people close to them that the dying person wants to mend. However, they may not have enough time to mend those rifts or the person they want to mend the rifts with doesn’t want to reconcile with them.
In additions, there might be misunderstandings and hard feelings that the person who is dying wants to resolve, but there may be no way or no time for them to do that. The dying person may also want to make amends to people who are important to them, and they might find it impossible to do that.
All of these issues with personal relationships can contribute to an unpeaceful death.
Some people are simply unhappy in their lives. When someone has lived unhappily, they will die unhappily. People who live unhappy lives have never learned that sometimes life just happens and it’s their responsibility to make the best of it.
Instead, unhappy people believe that life has been unfair to them or that they haven’t had the same advantages as everyone else. This mindset can cause them to experience an unpeaceful death.
A final reason why people might not be at peace with their deaths is because they haven’t let go of resentments they have against other people or they’ve tenaciously held on to regrets about things that have happened in the past and are unchangeable. In other words, these people have not learned how to forgive and how to move forward emotionally.